Selling the marital home without adding to the divorce
A divorce sale has two clients and no agreement, which is a situation most buyers handle badly. We have been through plenty of them, and the approach that works is the same every time. One written number, delivered to both parties and both attorneys at once, with nothing said to one side that is not said to the other.
We will deal with your attorneys directly if that is easier, and we will hold a closing date to suit a school year or a lease. If the house would net more listed, we will tell you that too.
A number, not a range
The largest asset in most divorces is the house, and it is the one nobody can price until it sells. So the divorce stalls on a guess, and each side's guess tends to favor the person making it.
What we provide is one written number on a Patchogue house in its current condition, the same number to both parties on the same day. It converts the biggest open question in the divorce from an argument into a figure everybody is working from.
Why local knowledge changes the number
A four-bedroom on Waverly Avenue. A four-bedroom on Camille Lane. A house on South Ocean Avenue. All of them in Patchogue, all bought by us.
Patchogue is roughly 12,408 people in Suffolk County, ZIP 11772, and the housing stock is mostly colonial, cape cod, victorian. Around Main Street and the Patchogue Theatre, most of it is old enough that the mechanicals are on their second or third life. The Patchogue stop pulls buyers who commute, which supports the good houses and does very little for the ones that need a roof. We know which of these streets take water, where the older systems fail first, and what the Patchogue-Medford School District does to a resale price.
No showings, no staging, no strangers
Condition is not a problem here, and in a divorce that matters more than usual, because repairs mean deciding together who pays for them.
We buy as is. Deferred maintenance, a half finished project somebody stopped caring about, contents still in the house. None of it needs resolving before we make an offer on the Patchogue property, and none of it becomes another line item in the divorce settlement.
Closing the divorce sale on a date that suits both sides
If one person needs to stay until the end of a school year, or until a new lease starts, we can set the closing for then. The date is one of the terms we agree, not something a buyer's mortgage timetable dictates to you.
In a divorce that flexibility is worth real money, because the alternative is usually one party paying for two households while everybody waits on an underwriter. Divorce settlements get signed on the assumption the house closes when it is supposed to.
What the two paths cost in Patchogue
These are the two routes open to you with a house in a divorce, priced against what Patchogue houses actually sell for.
Work it against Patchogue's own numbers. The median sale here is $605,000. A 5% commission on that is $30,250, and seller closing costs of about 2% add roughly $12,100. Those are costs we can cover on our side. That is $42,350 gone before anyone counts the repairs it took to get the house listable.
There are two waits in a listed sale and people usually only count the first. In Patchogue the median house takes about 33 days to go from listed to a signed contract. Then it waits again, typically 45 to 60 days, while the buyer's lender orders an appraisal and underwrites the loan. Call it 78 to 93 days from sign to keys, assuming nothing goes wrong.
The part worth understanding is what a signed contract actually guarantees, which is less than most sellers assume. A retail buyer with a mortgage contingency can walk away right up to the end. If they do not qualify, if the appraisal comes in under the price, if they change their mind and let the financing lapse. A share of deals die exactly there, after months of waiting, and the house goes back on the market with time on it. We are not borrowing anything, so there is no lender to satisfy, no appraisal to come in low and no contingency to exercise.
| Listing with an agent | Selling to us | |
|---|---|---|
| Sale price | $605,000 (Patchogue median) | Our written offer |
| Commission | −$30,250 | None |
| Seller closing costs | −$12,100 | We can cover them |
| Repairs before listing | Out of pocket | None |
| Cleanout | Yours | Ours |
| Showings | Until it sells | One visit |
| Listed to signed contract | 33 days (Patchogue median, once listable) | 24 hours to a written offer |
| Contract to closing | 45 to 60 days (waiting on the buyer's lender) | A date you choose |
| Total wait | 78 to 93 days if nothing falls through | Yours to set |
| Can the buyer walk? | Yes (mortgage contingency runs to the end) | No financing to fall through |
| Before repairs and carrying | $562,650 | The number we put in writing |
For the listing side we have used a 5% commission and about 2% in seller closing costs; your real figures may differ. Repairs and carrying costs are left out because they depend on the house. If yours is in good shape, a good agent may well get you more than we would, and we will tell you if so.
What happens when one spouse will not sell
If one spouse wants to sell and the other does not, the answer is usually not found in real estate. It is found in the divorce itself, and your attorney is the person who can tell you what a court can order.
Our part is simpler and we do it well. We provide a written offer that both sides and both attorneys can see at once, which at minimum removes any argument about what the Patchogue house is worth today.
What you do not pay when you sell a house in a divorce
Each of the following comes with a retail listing of a house in a divorce, and none of it comes with ours.
- Agent commission
- $30,250 at 5% of the Patchogue median none
- Seller closing costs
- About $12,100 on a $605,000 sale. We can cover these. none
- Repairs to make it listable
- Everything a buyer would flag, paid for before you list none
- Cleanout and removal
- Dumpsters or haulers by the load, ahead of any viewing none
- Carrying costs while it waits
- Taxes, insurance and utilities across the 78 to 93 days it takes to find a buyer and then wait on their lender none
If one of you wants to keep the Patchogue house
There is also a tax question, and it is a real one. How proceeds from a marital home are treated can depend on filing status and timing, which is a CPA's territory rather than ours.
Ask one before the divorce settlement is finalized, not after. We will happily give you the sale figure to bring to that conversation, and we will wait while you have it. Nothing about our offer expires because you took two weeks to get proper advice.
Common questions
Do both of us have to agree to sell the Patchogue house?
Everyone on the deed has to sign the contract. We can put the same written offer in front of both parties and both attorneys at once, so nobody in the divorce is working from different information about what the house is worth.
Can the offer go to our attorneys directly?
Yes. Send us their details and we will deal with them rather than with either of you, if that is what the divorce needs.
Can we sell before the divorce is finalized?
Frequently yes, and plenty of couples do, with the proceeds held or split according to the agreement. How that gets structured is a question for your divorce attorney, and we will work to whatever they set up.
What if my spouse is still living in the Patchogue house?
That is workable. We can view the house at a time that suits whoever is there, and we can set a closing date that gives them a reasonable window to move. Occupancy does not stop us buying.
Will you tell my ex what I said to you?
We do not carry messages between two sides of a divorce. The offer goes to both parties identically, and anything you tell us about your circumstances stays with us.